Hello and welcome to my blog.  I’m Lisa, it’s a pleasure to meet you!

I have decided that the best way to start living my dream of removing the taboo around sexuality and levelling the playing field so that we can finally grow, evolve and prosper as a species is to just start writing.

First off, my philosophy regarding sex and sexuality is that as long as it’s safe and consensual (this also means legal with regards to age gaps), then it’s perfectly fine.  I’m pretty sure religion and shame threw us back thousands of years when it comes to our own bodies and the totally and completely natural acts we choose to perform with them.  Can you imagine where we would be if the church had instead said, feel free to love instead of to hide in shame and fear?  I believe that we are finally starting to get out of that funk and move forward in our cultural progression.

I think we are in the early stages of maturing sexually as a culture.  Perhaps we’re in the awkward teenage years, with things like dick pics, nudes being leaked on the internet and a general fascination with the naked human body.  With that being said though, we’re starting to stand up, rise above the previous cultural norms, you can see this in the ways that women are speaking out all over the world and the way that trans is creeping into normalcy and the ways that when you say, ‘my friend and his boyfriend’, you no longer have to stop and explain that they are gay.

I believe that we are heading towards a safer space, one where you can openly talk about sexuality, preferences, issues, problems and stumbling blocks.  Where it’s just as normal to tell someone that your arm hurts because you slept on it funny that night and them giving you some stretches to try out is just as normal as telling someone that you’re having difficulty reaching orgasm with your partner and them giving you some tips on how to work together better.  That is my dream, my goal even.  I’m here to help us all reach a better and heightened place.  Honestly, don’t the majority of the world’s problems come down to sexuality and oppression of sexuality?  What if just none of that mattered?

Seriously, think about it!  What if the media didn’t throw images we didn’t like in our faces?  What if women all over the world could wear what they wanted and not be raped, cat called or even killed?  What if things like stretch marks, cellulite and scars didn’t hold people back from feeling comfortable being naked?  What if we could all just be?

I’m here to start that conversation.  I’m not trying to say that everyone needs to be comfortable and okay with discussing matters of sexuality openly, that’s just how I feel.  I enjoy discussing matters of sex and sexuality and I find that when people finally open up and have a mature discussion with me, about facts and ideas, using words that would normally make them blush, that they feel better too.  People hide these facts from everyone, and they shouldn’t.  Even though it’s not the be all, end all, sex is a HUGE part of life, everyone does it and it’s pretty much the only reason we exist on this planet, to procreate.  So why can’t we enjoy it?  Why can’t it be a normal part of our conversation? Why can’t it, above all else, be respected?

 

I’ll be posting my rantings and answering questions periodically.  I am happy to open up to you and I hope that you feel that this is a safe space to open up to me.

Welcome, you’re finally home 🙂